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19 and Expecting? The Hard Truth About Life, Choices, and Freedom
Hey folks, Earnest Mann here. Today’s episode is longer than usual, but that’s because it’s important. A young listener, Reggie from O’Clair, Wisconsin, wrote to me in a state of panic—he got a girl pregnant after just two months of dating, and now both families are pushing him to get married. At only 19 years old, he doesn’t want to go down that path, and he’s asking me what the hell he should do. Well, I’ve got some real talk for Reggie and anyone else facing life-altering decisions under family pressure.
Are You Living for Yourself or Others?
The first thing I told Reggie was don’t let others decide your fate. Families love to manipulate, especially when emotions run high, but they won’t be the ones sacrificing 18 years of their life. If you’re in this situation, you’re not selfish for wanting a future of your own—you’re rational. The real manipulation is this societal lie that the responsibility for pregnancy falls solely on the man. It takes two to tango, and this idea that men "got the girl pregnant" is just another way of shaming men into submission.
The Biological Trap: Why Some Women Will Have a Baby No Matter What
A young male at 19 is biologically wired to want sex, not fatherhood. But a woman under 25 is wired to reproduce—and once that urge kicks in, logic flies out the window. No home? No financial security? Doesn’t matter. When a woman decides she wants a baby, she’ll make it happen by any means necessary. And here’s the brutal truth: she doesn’t truly care about your life, your dreams, or your future—only that she gets her baby.
The Nanny State: Designed to Destroy Men’s Lives
If Reggie stays, he’s stepping into a system designed to enslave him for the next 18 years. Even if he and his girlfriend break up, the courts will come after him for child support, whether he likes it or not. If she applies for government assistance, she’ll be required to sign papers letting the state hunt him down for money. That means wage garnishment, asset seizure, driver’s license suspension, and even jail time if he can’t pay.
Your Best Option? Disappear and Build Your Own Life
Reggie has two choices: convince her to abort or put the child up for adoption—or vanish. If she won’t agree to either, then he needs to disappear fast. There are ways to fall off the grid, including working on Alaskan fishing boats, joining the Merchant Marines, or even the French Foreign Legion—places where no one asks questions, and no court can track you.
The Bottom Line: Take Control or Be Controlled
Reggie’s choice is clear—stay and be trapped in a system that ruins men, or disappear and build a future on his own terms. If he follows this advice, he can live freely and start a real family when he’s actually ready—but if he caves to guilt, he’ll spend the next two decades paying for one reckless night.
Do you think I gave Reggie good advice? Let me know in the comments. And if you’ve got an extra $50,000 lying around, feel free to send it my way—I promise not to spend it on Vegas hookers and blow.
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Transcript
00:00 [Music] hey folks thank you for being here people have a hell of a lot of problems and what I talk about here are your life problems no politics no religion I just want to remind you though I am not a licensed therapist I'm not claiming to be one so if you need a professional you should get one but what I can tell you is I'll try my best to help you because this is all about you and with that let's jump into today's story hello everybody thank you for being here this episode
00:42 is going to be a bit longer than usual because the letter I received from a 19-year-old guy was so urgent and emotional I decided this subject is something that seriously needs to be discussed and you know me I'm really into telling it like it is and that's what I'm going to do Reggie an O Clair Wisconsin he was asking me Ernest I got this girl pregnant I've only known her for two months she's nice but both families want me to man up and get married but I don't want to I'm only 19 years old
01:26 what the hell should I do re you may not feel this way right now but I can tell you that you're very lucky you're lucky and that somehow you found me and I'm going to tell you some things that possibly no one else around you is going to tell you what I'm about to tell you Reggie may shock you but if I were your parent I would much rather have you shocked than have your life destroyed on the other hand if I were your parent absolutely none of this would be an issue because I would
02:08 have made certain that you were very prepared for this possible scenario at 19 so take it easy just hold on and listen to what I have to say to the end okay here it goes do not live your life through others people often family and friends love to tell you how to live your life in this case their family as well as yours but they're not the ones that are going to have to deal with losing the next 18 years the prime of their lives by doing so don't do that you're not being selfish you're being rational they are the ones who are not the very first thing
hammered into men since the :03:46 back before you were born hell even before I was born there was a term I don't know exactly when it died out but I'm pretty sure it was in the mid-60s when the woman's something for nothing Nanny state was created but certainly in the 40s through the 50s the term used for a certain kind of situation when a woman particularly a young gal was saying she was in trouble or others would speak of her and say I think she's in trouble it basically was codp for saying a girl was pregnant
04:29 but more specifically it meant she was pregnant out of wedlock and the man had no real obligation to marry her or support the child meaning he could just completely disappear and in many cases simply lacking availability abortion wasn't even an option so if a baby came to term and she didn't want it and the family didn't want it that only left adoption or perhaps more horrifically other actions due to unbearable circumstances in turn most often caused by a lack of professional
05:10 abortion Services now in your letter you didn't mention if you're religious at all or to what extent but I can tell you that the psychological guilt tripping manipulation is aund times worse if you happen to be unfortunate enough being raised in a very religious family here is a very brief but nonetheless accurate description of the two Sexes especially when young if a young male is normal once he enters puberty and you're certainly beyond that he wants to [ __ ] just about anything
05:52 that moves young old blind crippled crazy he ain't too particular as as long as females physicality fits into certain broad pun intended parameters and other than personal experience I can tell you with absolute certainty that any of these females that he does have an opportunity to have sex with again this is assuming his mind isn't [ __ ] up by religion he's not pounding away doing the bottom knocking thinking this girl is the absolute [ __ ] no other girl in the entire world's veg could
06:38 possibly feel this good I want to spend the rest of my life with her I'm going to fill her with as much love juice as possible because I absolutely want her to get pregnant nope he's just really enjoying the [ __ ] and that's about it until it's time time to do some more [ __ ] but babies family and all that other [ __ ] that goes with it nope no way seriously not interested that is the truth of your average 19-year-old male but that is not the case with the female that's entirely
07:21 different there are two things that need to be remembered your entire life about the human female first her words are utterly meaningless she is ultimately controlled by her emotions you go by your actions Never by what she says which you'll find changes moment to moment just like the wind second until around age 25 the only thing she cares about in this world remember this drive is innate it is nothing to do with anything she says is to make babies and come hell or high water the
08:08 circumstances don't matter how impractical it might be no good income no home again no logic or Reason when she wants a baby she will get a baby she will bang the good-looking guy in the nightclub if necessary I speak from experience but she will get a baby that is her biological imperative her biology her femaleness Reggie and she ultimately doesn't give a damn about your life or anyone else's she wants a baby so in this situation Reggie you have two options talk to the gal try your best to reason you can even offer to stay with her if you want but you
08:59 ask absolutely don't want a child at 19 and you can either abort or put it up for adoption if she will not agree to either one of those two choices or if she does the old changes her mind due to her conscious about family God or some other infantile [ __ ] then you my friend need to disappear fast the reason I say disappear fast is because the nanny State system that was developed for her to enslave you many years ago is only there to give her the illusion of freedom and security while
09:45 simultaneously utterly destroying your life but as I said before she ultimately doesn't give a damn about you only babies have you ever known or met a single woman that not only has multiple children but by different fathers there's a reason for that the state helps the baby making machine and then comes after you to destroy your life so if you stay with this woman Reggie under the delusion of doing the right thing when the relationship goes belly up and it definitely will go Belly
10:28 Up usually due to the stresses of you both being broke and your pent up resentment of being forced into something you never wanted in the first place you will either leave or she will divorce you over 80% of the time the woman sues for divorce but your nightmare doesn't end there Reggie because saying the legal and child support system is against you is the understatement of the century now depending on how poor you are and there's a high probability you're both poor because your
11:08 baby making machine or I meant your uh girlfriend decided to further overpopulate the world instead of getting a career or some other really solid foundation first before cranking out babies her next move is going to be to get benefits from Social Services and there is a whole group of benefits that she will most likely receive rent assistance food assistance or food stamps even cash money but here's the deal in order for her to take advantage of those things she has to sign an agreement with the state that they can and will pursue you for child support this has pretty much
11:56 become standard throughout the nation so even if she doesn't want to do it it will happen so then in turn the courts will eventually track you down and order you to pay child support and you will pay that child support or they will do a whole lot of nasty things to you such as garnish your wages take your possessions and if need be also take your driver's license and or put your ass in jail and you'll have to put up with that [ __ ] for the next 18 years that's the reality of the situation
12:38 Reggie you may have [ __ ] her but now you're the one really getting [ __ ] so the key takeaway from this is don't let your life be destroyed by a female's mindless biological imperative if she will not agree to the two options stated earlier you need to disappear or figuratively die note I said figuratively I don't want you to go [ __ ] killing yourself since you're young and you should be physically fit you can get a job in the Bearing Sea on a fishing boat for Alaskan king
13:21 crab it's an extremely physically demanding and very dangerous job but it pays well and it beats a life of being a [ __ ] Uber driver in addition to other [ __ ] low-paying jobs two more possible Alternatives is to join the merchant marines or the French Foreign Legion they are always looking for healthy fit young men and they don't ask a lot of questions if you get my meaning my point Reggie is that in this scenario you need to compl completely fall off the radar and where there's a will there's a way I can't spell out every potential option for you and have
14:09 already gone much longer into this episode than I originally intended so I'll simply end with this if you follow this Sage advice Reggie and actually disappear but build a good enjoyable and prosperous life until you hit you know know say around 30 or 35 then you can start a family if you wish just absolutely never get married and you'll be thanking me all the way to the bank or you can get caught up in this American hillbilly ghetto scene and wish like hell you would have listened to me the choice is entirely yours so folks do you think I gave gave Reggie
15:00 good advice please do let me know by leaving a comment I realize of course it is no shame to be poor but it's no great honor either so what would have been so terrible if I had a small fortune If I Were a Rich maner bger all day I wouldn't have to work hard if I were a b by rich idle did idle Idle Man now if you're well too and you just happen to have an extra I don't know 50,000 laying around that you're really not doing anything with would you send it my way please I would really appreciate
16:17 that and I promise not to waste it on Vegas hookers or blow if you're like me and you don't have that kind of dough I absolutely understand so maybe you could send me enough for a cup of coffee and if you can't swing that I could settle for you just subscribing hell I've got to get something out of this deal until next Monday or Friday at 9:00 a.m. this is earnest and I usually always am
