Learning How and When to Properly Tell Someone to Fuck Off EP.37
The Right Time to Show Emotion — And When to Keep It in Check
Hey, it’s Earnest Mann, and in this episode of Advanced Perception, I’m talking about a truth we all face — the role of emotion in everyday life. Sometimes you regret a decision and realize it wasn’t stupidity but misplaced emotion. So let's break that down.
Knowing When to Be Emotional — And When Not to Be
There’s a time for emotion — and a time to leave it at the door. When you’re in an intimate moment, that’s when emotion matters. But when you’re buying a car, a house, or making other big life decisions, emotion can cost you. Learning the balance is key.
Emotional Marketing: The Manipulation Behind Every Ad
I dig into how marketing exploits emotion, especially in ads for fast food, cars, and mattresses. These campaigns are designed to bypass logic and trigger impulsive buying. But once you see through the manipulation, it changes the way you view consumer culture.
Profanity, Authenticity, and Connecting in a Conformist World
I talk about using raw honesty and humor, even profanity, in everyday interactions. Why? Because it breaks the robotic routine of corporate scripts. Whether it’s in a fast food line or a boring job, a well-timed, authentic reaction can shake someone awake — or even make their day.
The One Certainty: You’re Not Getting Out of Life Alive
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Transcript
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Ever found yourself in a situation you
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totally regret, but you realize after
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the fact it was your own stupidity that
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got you there? But sometimes it's not
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stupidity, it's something else. Hello,
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my name is Ernest and this is Advanced
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Perception, where a very lifeexperienced
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old guy like me offers unconventional
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advice on a variety of life situations
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and troubles. So, if you find this
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episode interesting or helpful, please
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subscribe and feel free to ask any
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questions or leave a comment in the
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description below. Now, let's jump into
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this.
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What I am about to tell you may or may
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not come as a surprise to you. That
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would depend on many factors that well
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frankly I have no idea of knowing
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because it's just my voice out here in
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the interweb wilderness.
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But here's what I can tell you without a
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shadow of a doubt
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is that it's very important to recognize
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the difference between periods of time
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and the actions you take that are based
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on emotions and those that aren't.
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What I'm trying to say by that is that
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there are times when you absolutely want
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to be emotional
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and conversely there are times when you
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don't.
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And the important thing to recognize is
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that both of them within their
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respective realms, let's say, are
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equally important.
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But again, it's just recognizing when
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you should be, let's say, emotional and
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when you shouldn't. For instance, if
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you're having sex, if the sex is any
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good, yeah, that's the time to be
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emotional. That is definitely what you
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do want to be doing
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because if you're having a unemotional
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sex, besides the fact uh your partner's
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going to think you're well a bit
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strange, chances are you're probably not
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going to have that partner for very
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long.
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On the other hand, there are so many
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other things that have been relegated
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to emotional decisions that actually
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shouldn't be. Think about this for a
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moment. Look at uh well, it's not like
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you really have a choice, but look at
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all the ads that they show for products.
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Everything from, you know, fast food
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joints to buying a [ __ ] mattress, for
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instance.
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Each one of these things usually is
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presented emotionally because they know
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the the uh marketing criminals I mean
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the uh marketing people they know that
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emotion sells
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but what I'm trying to tell you is as
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far as certain purchases are concerned
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and also as far as certain people are
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concerned there's a time to be emotional
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and there is definitely a time not to
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be.
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Your emotions that you store up should
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not be an open book. They really
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shouldn't. That's your that's your
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space. That's your personal private
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space. But in addition to that, you can
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also think of them as a energy storage
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battery.
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This is something that when the
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necessity calls for it that you can uh
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well you can call on to uh you know save
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yourself at a really bad potentially bad
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situation.
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For instance, one of the worst things
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that they constantly show on TV and I'm
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sure you're probably well aware of it
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are car ads.
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And it's it's been done in, you know,
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every way imaginable, but it can be
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depending on the market, depending if
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it's a luxury vehicle, an SUV or
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whatnot. But the point is, um, you know,
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it shows if it's an SUV, it shows a
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group of, you know, maybe late 20s,
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early 30s people having the absolute
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time of their life. They got their
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camping gear packed. They got everything
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in there, including the dog. And they're
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just rampaging through the wilderness at
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60 m an hour. They're all laughing and
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just having the time of their life.
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And um of all the times that I've
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experienced things similar to this, I
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don't remember that [ __ ] happening once.
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Not ever. Not once. Um, first of all, if
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people you know that I were with were
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doing this, chances are they were
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actually running from something. Um,
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there's no cause to be, you know, break
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necking through the wilderness at 60 m
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an hour unless something's chasing your
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ass.
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But anyway, yeah, everything is with
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marketing, it's over the top and it's,
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you know, it's being put forth like
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emotionalism. That's it. Pure and
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simple.
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And it shouldn't be. You know, when's
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the last time, for instance, you went
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into a fast food place and if you have
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these, you know, super over-the-top
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hyper sucking corporate type people
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because that's the way they're trained.
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And try doing this just one time just to
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just to see the reaction you get. You're
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not trying to give the person working
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there a hard time. You're trying just
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think of it as a social experiment. You
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could just try it and hi, welcome to
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blah blah blah blah blah. Can I take
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your order? What can I do for you? Say
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something like, okay, well that double
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cheeseburger kind. Yeah, I'll have the
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[ __ ] double cheeseburger combo and uh
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superers size as [ __ ] fries and I'd
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like a large [ __ ] drink.
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So, they may or may not be used to the
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fbombs, but it's certainly the
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equivalent of what's done, you know, in
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in the commercials because that's what
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they do. And in real life, it's really
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interesting when you do that just to see
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the kind of reaction you get. Sometimes
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sometimes the person may actually just
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laugh with you because they actually get
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it. They get it and they those one the
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people who actually get it. those
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people, I'd love to give them a a an
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award of some kind, an awareness award,
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because they certainly have an advanced
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perception.
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other ones. Yeah. The ones that are well
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um you know you know the kind they're
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just not uh with it, let's say. And you
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get the the the blank stairs or you get
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the headlight in the deers, you know,
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the deer in the headlights look and uh
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because they're overwhelmed with the
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reality of the words you're using or
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they consider them to be bad words and
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it it frightens them. and you're so
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frightened because everything frightens
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them.
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So anyway, it's just nice what I like to
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do my thing. And anytime I'm going to do
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this in a situation that calls for
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something, let's say that, you know,
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should be normal and non-emotional,
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just like the ads on TV, except for me,
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of course, using the profanity. I like
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to do that at every opportunity,
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every time, every chance I get. And it
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just make at least as far as feelings
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are concerned, if we want to talk about
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feelings, as far as feelings are
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concerned, it certainly makes me feel a
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hell of a lot better that I can, as they
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say, express myself. I can express
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myself to people who, you know, get no
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entertainment. A lot of times, more
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often than not, a lot of times these
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people, they actually laugh. They,
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again, they actually get it and it
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breaks up the monotony of their horrible
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conformist [ __ ] job that they have
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to do day in and day out just to, you
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know, if I could eek out an existence.
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And you know, you only go around this
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pole in life once. So, I like that. It
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just does something to break up the
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monotony to they're not they're not
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[ __ ] bored. I mean, they're not, you
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know, they're actually enjoying
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something. And and maybe even, you know,
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later when they get home, it'll make a
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laugh. So, you know what happened at
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work today? There was this guy in line
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and I've never heard anyone use so much
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[ __ ] profanity in my life. Guy was
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hysterical.
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Yeah, something something like that.
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So, I'm saying that there is, you know,
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a time to keep the emotions on the down
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low. I mean, you know, you probably
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don't want to do this at a funeral. I
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wouldn't suggest that. Not a good idea.
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But anything else, depending on what it
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is, okay, you don't want to do this when
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you're buying a car. You don't want to
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do it when you're buying a house or
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property. You you don't want to do that.
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You just don't because you got too busy
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things you got to focus on. That's these
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are very serious, you know, things that
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you have to do. Um, so yeah, it requires
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that kind of focus, but for the rest of
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it, for the rest of it, [ __ ] make
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think of it as a destressor for
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yourself. You're not unloading on the
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person, assuming they're an adult and
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and not a adult child that's very
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porcelain and and and very fragile. Now,
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assuming that's not the case, if they're
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a [ __ ] adult, they can handle it. And
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maybe, just maybe, they might even get a
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laugh out of this whole thing. And you
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see, at the end of the day, at the end
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of the day, it's like this. I've come to
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this conclusion. Now, I don't know if
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you thought about this, but I'm just
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going to tell you straight up about
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where this whole idea that I'm talking
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about with, you know, displaying the
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emotions and and not displaying them and
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when and how to do that. But, um,
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I'm convinced I am absolutely convinced
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that no matter what I do, good, bad,
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ugly, what have you, I am not going to
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get out of this life alive.
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I just I just know it. I just feel it. I
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just know it. So, if you're only going
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to go around a poll once, hell, you
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might as well try to make someone else
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feel better, you know? And so, yeah,
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that's that's the whole idea of this.
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And that's um
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that's basically that's basically all I
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have to say about this. And hopefully,
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you know, you'll
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have some words that you could think
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about to
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give to your [ __ ] boss.
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If you really want to give me a
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compliment besides hitting the subscribe
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button, telling a friend about the show
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would be the best compliment you could
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ever give me. Until next time, this is
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Ernest. That's all I've got for today.