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Ever found yourself in a situation you

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totally regret, but you realize after

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the fact it was your own stupidity that

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got you there? But sometimes it's not

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stupidity, it's something else. Hello,

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my name is Ernest and this is Advanced

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Perception, where a very lifeexperienced

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old guy like me offers unconventional

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advice on a variety of life situations

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and troubles. So, if you find this

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questions or leave a comment in the

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description below. Now, let's jump into

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this.

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What I am about to tell you may or may

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not come as a surprise to you. That

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would depend on many factors that well

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frankly I have no idea of knowing

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because it's just my voice out here in

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the interweb wilderness.

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But here's what I can tell you without a

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shadow of a doubt

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is that it's very important to recognize

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the difference between periods of time

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and the actions you take that are based

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on emotions and those that aren't.

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What I'm trying to say by that is that

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there are times when you absolutely want

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to be emotional

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and conversely there are times when you

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don't.

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And the important thing to recognize is

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that both of them within their

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respective realms, let's say, are

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equally important.

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But again, it's just recognizing when

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you should be, let's say, emotional and

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when you shouldn't. For instance, if

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you're having sex, if the sex is any

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good, yeah, that's the time to be

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emotional. That is definitely what you

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do want to be doing

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because if you're having a unemotional

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sex, besides the fact uh your partner's

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going to think you're well a bit

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strange, chances are you're probably not

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going to have that partner for very

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long.

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On the other hand, there are so many

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other things that have been relegated

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to emotional decisions that actually

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shouldn't be. Think about this for a

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moment. Look at uh well, it's not like

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you really have a choice, but look at

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all the ads that they show for products.

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Everything from, you know, fast food

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joints to buying a [ __ ] mattress, for

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instance.

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Each one of these things usually is

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presented emotionally because they know

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the the uh marketing criminals I mean

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the uh marketing people they know that

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emotion sells

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but what I'm trying to tell you is as

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far as certain purchases are concerned

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and also as far as certain people are

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concerned there's a time to be emotional

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and there is definitely a time not to

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be.

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Your emotions that you store up should

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not be an open book. They really

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shouldn't. That's your that's your

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space. That's your personal private

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space. But in addition to that, you can

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also think of them as a energy storage

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battery.

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This is something that when the

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necessity calls for it that you can uh

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well you can call on to uh you know save

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yourself at a really bad potentially bad

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situation.

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For instance, one of the worst things

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that they constantly show on TV and I'm

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sure you're probably well aware of it

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are car ads.

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And it's it's been done in, you know,

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every way imaginable, but it can be

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depending on the market, depending if

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it's a luxury vehicle, an SUV or

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whatnot. But the point is, um, you know,

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it shows if it's an SUV, it shows a

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group of, you know, maybe late 20s,

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early 30s people having the absolute

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time of their life. They got their

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camping gear packed. They got everything

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in there, including the dog. And they're

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just rampaging through the wilderness at

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60 m an hour. They're all laughing and

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just having the time of their life.

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And um of all the times that I've

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experienced things similar to this, I

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don't remember that [ __ ] happening once.

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Not ever. Not once. Um, first of all, if

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people you know that I were with were

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doing this, chances are they were

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actually running from something. Um,

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there's no cause to be, you know, break

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necking through the wilderness at 60 m

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an hour unless something's chasing your

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ass.

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But anyway, yeah, everything is with

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marketing, it's over the top and it's,

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you know, it's being put forth like

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emotionalism. That's it. Pure and

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simple.

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And it shouldn't be. You know, when's

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the last time, for instance, you went

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into a fast food place and if you have

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these, you know, super over-the-top

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hyper sucking corporate type people

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because that's the way they're trained.

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And try doing this just one time just to

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just to see the reaction you get. You're

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not trying to give the person working

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there a hard time. You're trying just

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think of it as a social experiment. You

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could just try it and hi, welcome to

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blah blah blah blah blah. Can I take

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your order? What can I do for you? Say

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something like, okay, well that double

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cheeseburger kind. Yeah, I'll have the

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[ __ ] double cheeseburger combo and uh

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superers size as [ __ ] fries and I'd

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like a large [ __ ] drink.

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So, they may or may not be used to the

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fbombs, but it's certainly the

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equivalent of what's done, you know, in

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in the commercials because that's what

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they do. And in real life, it's really

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interesting when you do that just to see

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the kind of reaction you get. Sometimes

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sometimes the person may actually just

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laugh with you because they actually get

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it. They get it and they those one the

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people who actually get it. those

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people, I'd love to give them a a an

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award of some kind, an awareness award,

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because they certainly have an advanced

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perception.

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other ones. Yeah. The ones that are well

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um you know you know the kind they're

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just not uh with it, let's say. And you

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get the the the blank stairs or you get

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the headlight in the deers, you know,

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the deer in the headlights look and uh

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because they're overwhelmed with the

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reality of the words you're using or

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they consider them to be bad words and

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it it frightens them. and you're so

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frightened because everything frightens

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them.

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So anyway, it's just nice what I like to

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do my thing. And anytime I'm going to do

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this in a situation that calls for

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something, let's say that, you know,

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should be normal and non-emotional,

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just like the ads on TV, except for me,

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of course, using the profanity. I like

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to do that at every opportunity,

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every time, every chance I get. And it

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just make at least as far as feelings

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are concerned, if we want to talk about

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feelings, as far as feelings are

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concerned, it certainly makes me feel a

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hell of a lot better that I can, as they

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say, express myself. I can express

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myself to people who, you know, get no

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entertainment. A lot of times, more

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often than not, a lot of times these

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people, they actually laugh. They,

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again, they actually get it and it

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breaks up the monotony of their horrible

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conformist [ __ ] job that they have

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to do day in and day out just to, you

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know, if I could eek out an existence.

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And you know, you only go around this

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pole in life once. So, I like that. It

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just does something to break up the

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monotony to they're not they're not

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[ __ ] bored. I mean, they're not, you

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know, they're actually enjoying

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something. And and maybe even, you know,

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later when they get home, it'll make a

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laugh. So, you know what happened at

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work today? There was this guy in line

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and I've never heard anyone use so much

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[ __ ] profanity in my life. Guy was

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hysterical.

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Yeah, something something like that.

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So, I'm saying that there is, you know,

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a time to keep the emotions on the down

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low. I mean, you know, you probably

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don't want to do this at a funeral. I

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wouldn't suggest that. Not a good idea.

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But anything else, depending on what it

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is, okay, you don't want to do this when

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you're buying a car. You don't want to

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do it when you're buying a house or

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property. You you don't want to do that.

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You just don't because you got too busy

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things you got to focus on. That's these

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are very serious, you know, things that

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you have to do. Um, so yeah, it requires

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that kind of focus, but for the rest of

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it, for the rest of it, [ __ ] make

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think of it as a destressor for

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yourself. You're not unloading on the

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person, assuming they're an adult and

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and not a adult child that's very

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porcelain and and and very fragile. Now,

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assuming that's not the case, if they're

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a [ __ ] adult, they can handle it. And

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maybe, just maybe, they might even get a

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laugh out of this whole thing. And you

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see, at the end of the day, at the end

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of the day, it's like this. I've come to

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this conclusion. Now, I don't know if

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you thought about this, but I'm just

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going to tell you straight up about

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where this whole idea that I'm talking

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about with, you know, displaying the

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emotions and and not displaying them and

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when and how to do that. But, um,

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I'm convinced I am absolutely convinced

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that no matter what I do, good, bad,

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ugly, what have you, I am not going to

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get out of this life alive.

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I just I just know it. I just feel it. I

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just know it. So, if you're only going

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to go around a poll once, hell, you

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might as well try to make someone else

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feel better, you know? And so, yeah,

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that's that's the whole idea of this.

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And that's um

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that's basically that's basically all I

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have to say about this. And hopefully,

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you know, you'll

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have some words that you could think

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about to

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give to your [ __ ] boss.

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If you really want to give me a

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compliment besides hitting the subscribe

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button, telling a friend about the show

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would be the best compliment you could

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ever give me. Until next time, this is

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Ernest. That's all I've got for today.