LEAVING HUSBAND OVER JONBENET RAMSEY? AND GAS? EARNEST MANN'S: THIS IS JUST FOR YOU! PC.1
The Unexpected Solution to an Unusual Marriage Problem
Hey folks, Earnest Mann here. Today, I'm tackling one of the most bizarre relationship stories I’ve ever received. Kelly wrote to me about her husband's obsession with JonBenét Ramsey—a fixation that started back in 1996 and escalated into a full-blown shrine in his office. If that wasn't strange enough, she also has a major issue with his excessive flatulence.
Understanding the Real Issue Behind These Problems
Let’s be real: one of these problems is significantly bigger than the other. A nearly 30-year-long fixation on a murdered child is beyond creepy, and frankly, I would have recommended a psychological evaluation long ago. The gas problem, on the other hand, is more common than you'd think. Science has shown that men tend to be gassier due to anxiety, especially around sex and reproductive stress. It’s a biological response that stems from the ancient need to stay alert after intercourse to protect against competing males. So no, it’s not just your husband being inconsiderate—it’s hardwired in.
The Best Solution? Living Apart
Kelly, here’s the truth: you don’t necessarily need a divorce, but you do need to live apart. Separate living spaces—whether in different apartments or separate areas of a large home—can significantly improve your happiness. Society romanticizes the idea of elderly couples walking arm-in-arm, but for every successful lifelong relationship, there are millions of bitter divorces.
A Classic Car Analogy: Not Every Marriage Lasts
Think of relationships like classic cars. We admire vintage beauties like a 1957 Chevy, but the truth is, most didn’t survive the years—they were wrecked, abandoned, or scrapped. The same applies to relationships. Some last, most don’t. The best thing you can do is create a setup that works for you, even if it doesn’t fit traditional expectations.
That’s it for today, folks. Until next time, I’m Earnest, and I usually always am.
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Transcript
00:03 hey folks thank you for being here people have a hell of a lot of problems and what I talk about here are your life problems no politics no religion I just want to remind you though I am not a licensed therapist I'm not claiming to be one so if you need a professional you should get one but what I can tell you is I'll try my best to help you because this is all about you and with that let's jump into today's story before I get started Kelly sorry I can't post your picture I don't post
00:46 anyone's picture who sends me a story for Our Mutual Security I hope you can understand the story you sent me is so bizarre it really threw me back I've heard a hell of a lot of things but this is really something and although I totally sympathize with how it made you feel the solution is not what you might expect but it is a solution nonetheless you see Kelly because I'm a realist and also very pragmatic I tend to go with things that work I don't necessarily care about when they were invented or where I'm only concerned
s murder way the hell back in:02:19 red flag for me Kelly if we were talking maybe possibly a very close relative I could possibly see something like that for the short term but Christ that was almost 30 years ago if you both married at 20 as you claim and you're only bringing this up now this makes the other problem you're having with your husband almost meaningless by comparison his flatulence seriously look Kelly I've actually talked to a lot of people about this especially those that have lived together for a number of years and it's
03:06 usually the woman complaining about this but let me ask you this way back when you guys first got together when things were passionate and you were screwing like rabbits were you complaining about that then I seriously doubted and please don't try to tell me he wasn't tooting like a steam TR all the time back then you can bet he was if not even more the fact is Kelly you simply didn't care about it then you had other priorities and bitching about his gas issues wasn't one of them until suddenly
03:49 it was now I'm not going to segue into male physiology here but science has known for quite some time that as a whole men tend to be much gassier than women and they also know the primary reason for that anxiety there are a series of chemicals that are produced via a high level of anxiety and those chemicals in turn have an effect in the GI tract of producing a great deal of gas but as I said this begins with high levels of anxiety and the primary cause of high anxiety in men sex or rather a fear of not getting
04:39 it you see when men engage in sex they have what's called a refractory period which physically means how much time does it take to regain an erection and have more sex generally this can be anywhere from a few minutes up to even a few days depending on many factors such as age Health Etc but in addition to that Kelly the anxiety sets in immediately after having sex and research has Associated this as the equivalent of a fight or flight response because apparently in our long past human history depending on the
05:29 circumstances several males would be waiting their chance to copulate with a female immediately after the initial male had achieved orgasm and was on the verge of passing out so that is the much Technical and science-based reason for your husband being so gassy it's an involuntary response to innate reproductive stress strategies as far as your husband's obsession with Joan Benet Ramsey I think it's creepy and I would have suggested a psychological evaluation many years ago but obviously that time's long passed so I'll just go
06:17 directly to the solution for both problems you need to live apart now I'm not saying that you need to get divorced that's an entirely different matter something I'm not going to go into in this episode but for multiple reasons particularly in this case you need to live apart now depending on the circumstances such as if you're both multi-millionaires and you live in an estate that you could put 20 or more average sized American Homes into and you're not at the point of hating each other so much much that it could
07:01 become homicidal you both could still live in the same property just have your own entirely separate living areas if however you live like the rest of us peasants in an apartment or condo you could each have separate units and trust me with a very high probability would result in both of you being much happier and in very brief I'll explain why living together happily married is all well and good I don't think it's a bad thing at all but when you see an elderly couple walking arm and arm in the park despite all the Romanticism
07:49 behind it you know the a Shooks look at that isn't that sweet it reinforces a very unrealistic relation reltionship narrative because yes it's certainly sweet to look at and undoubtedly it may be the way we hope to end up with our significant other when that time comes but the fact of the matter Kelly is whenever you see an elderly couple like that just remember the millions upon millions of others from their generation when they also were young that ended up divorcing sometimes bitterly with tons of emotional or financial vindictiveness
of the cars produced from the:09:27 upon millions of them were produced but the vast majority of them are gone for many reasons they were the ones that didn't Escape the Car Crusher so we only get to see the very lucky ones that somehow were lucky were taken care of protected and preserved that's a happy healthy elderly couple for you I certainly hope that helps you Kelly as for me until next Monday or Friday I'm Earnest and I usually always am
