00:00 [Music] hello folks it's Friday we made it through another week and I'm going to be talking to you about well people that have the notion of getting something for nothing maybe you know the kind of people that I'm talking about have you ever been unnecessarily frustrated by people who apparently can't even see something truly great in their lives especially when they take that very something and toss it away now I'm saying unnecessarily frustrated not because this is a problem that you created in your life but

01:00 because say the people who do this inevitably seem to have really stupid up things going on in their lives and then somehow expect you to help them or even become angry at you when you refuse to I know I have and you know what when I eventually got sick enough of it I decided to do something about it so maybe what I'm about to tell you might actually help you or for that matter help all of us I had a very UNC cousin once and it's named Janet and she used to come over to my house whenever the hell the mood

01:48 struck her and no call no advanced notice of any kind just walk her ass right on in and start babbling about her up life she was completely unconcerned and oblivious to whatever I may have been doing because apparently the universe revolved around her can you relate to this what she didn't know was that I was totally fed up with her dysfunctional very long story short Not only was her life a self-imposed Perpetual crisis but she always expected you to drop whatever the hell you were doing and listen intently sometimes for two or three

02:39 hours but you would never get anything out of it she never offered me or anyone else in return not even a pizza or Chinese takeout definitely not a symbiotic relationship so this time when she barged in the mom moment she started going into her TI raade I cut her off and I asked her if she had her checkbook or debit card she looked at me strange and asked why I wanted her checkbook or debit card I said so I can get paid for listening to your problems she instantly laughed and I instantly told her I wasn't

03:25 joking I also told her how much I didn't appreciate her barging in whenever she felt like it with no warning whatsoever but regardless I charge $100 an hour and that's what I expect in the future this time is not scheduled but if you want to schedule a time you can call me in the future right now you need to leave because I had things that I needed to do she left in a big Huff calling me an and slamming the door on her way out that was 22 years ago and she's not been at my house since so do you think

04:11 my actions were really harsh how do you think you would have felt if you were me in that similar situation I don't know about you but regardless of all the bitching that I hear from people about relationships my experience has taught me that more often than not the ones that are doing the most bitching tend to be the ones that are the perpetrators the instigators of the very problems they're bitching and complaining about unfortunately this is most common in families because the dysfunctional up family member apparently Feels

04:56 by virtue of the fact that they are well family me members that they have cart blanch to be crazy and to lay that craziness on other family members who don't want it and sure as hell don't need it do you dear listener have any experience in what the hell I'm talking about here what I'm talking about here is the craziness that many people carry with them that friends and family are subjected to every day but there's another side of this craziness that you may not be aware of and I'm going to do my best to point

05:38 this out it required that I do a little social experiment which I did and now I'm going to tell you about it I went into a big box Home Center just to ask people a simple question the question I asked was if I I wanted to give them $100 cash no strings attached would they be interested I thought the question was so foolish that maybe my experiment was actually ridiculous and I shouldn't even be doing it after all who the hell wouldn't take $100 cash it seemed to me that only an idiot or someone who was utterly corporate

06:28 brainwashed would refuse such an offer damn was I ever surprised after asking that question to a fair number of employees spread out across three different stores it turned out that only about two out of 10 said they would and even that small percentage were a bit hesitant that means that eight out of 10 had been very conditioned and apparently that condition conditioning was very effective and the line that I heard from them say over and over again was that it was against company policy now on the surface that might

07:15 seem understandable I mean after all we all understand that company policy is well company policy right absolutely that is if a person has been so utterly conditioned that the notion of self-preservation is a foreign concept to them in case you're not quite understanding what I'm getting at here is that a large percentage of working people have come to accept the idea that it is a cardinal sin etched in stone as though carried down from the mountain on tabl let from Moses himself to act in any way that goes

08:07 against company policy but don't even give it a second thought to ask for something from friends or family members that would obviously be a burden like say borrowing a hundred bucks for a car repair from their poor elderly mother that those friends and family can ill afford to lend despite the fact that they themselves haven't done a damn thing in the past for them I believe that well that's a really up human policy if you ask me if you're one of the lucky people out there that have very close family and

08:54 friends you should treat them as such by recognizing how precious they are by always trying to make sure that you have a symbiotic not one way relationship with them stop expecting something for nothing perhaps the lyrics of the song reeling in the Years by Steely Dan says it best though you wouldn't even know a diamond if you held it in your hand the things you think are precious I can't understand so if you found this interesting or helpful Please Subscribe and click on the notification Bell because it really

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