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Why Young Men Should Think Twice About Marriage in Modern America
Hey, it’s Earnest Mann. In this unapologetically real episode, I'm responding to a letter from Aaron in Oregon—a 25-year-old IT guy with a good-paying job and dreams of marrying his high school sweetheart. What starts off sounding like a heartfelt life update quickly turns into a cautionary tale. I'm not here to mock Aaron, but to tell the harsh truth about marriage, modern masculinity, and legal traps that young men keep walking into.
The Fantasy vs. The Reality of Marriage
Aaron's story isn't rare—it’s just another example of youthful idealism crashing into cold, hard facts. The idea of marriage, especially to someone described as a “baby-making machine,” is often less about love and more about outdated romantic myths and biological imperatives. Once the pleasure wears off (usually within a year), most men realize they’ve signed up for a legal and financial prison.
How the Legal System Is Stacked Against Men
Let’s talk real: marriage is just a state-sanctioned legal contract, and every aspect of that contract is written to protect the woman and punish the man, especially in divorce. If you end up with kids and the marriage goes south (which it likely will), you’re staring down 18 years of child support, potential alimony, and a ruined life. I break this down in plain language so no one can say they weren’t warned.
My Final Message to Aaron—and to You
Aaron, don’t let 17th-century fairytales or moralistic guilt trips guide your decisions. Don’t “man up” just because someone tells you to. Marriage is a scam, and the system is rigged. If you ignore this and still walk down that aisle, then when it all falls apart—I told you so.
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Transcript
00:00 hello my name is Ernest Welcome I probably don't need to remind you of just how damn crazy the world is today People becoming aggressive at the slightest provocation desperately needed positive government action paralyzed by partisan bickering and corruption shootings and killings at schools and public events and perhaps worst of all corporate created cultural icons like Taylor Swift In this series I just try to answer your questions to hopefully make your life a little better So let's jump in hunker down and try to get our
00:36 ass into a better position Aaron I just want to let you know that I absolutely appreciate your letter and I'm trying to the best of my ability to be helpful What I'm about to say may sound harsh but it's not meant to make light of your situation whatsoever Henceforth for easier understanding I'll be referring to you in the third person I got a letter from a guy named Aaron in my home state of Oregon and it's extremely interesting Now I want to let you know it's not interesting in so much as what he told me about himself
01:20 and his life because frankly much of it was pretty typical And I don't want to sound as though I'm being dismissive but what does make it so interesting in this particular case was just how interesting Aaron thought it was I'm talking about a very high level of self-absorption This is the reason for example that many famous and otherwise very successful people such as actor Tom Cruz inevitably end up alone Because people that come into his life especially his intimate life always end up leaving because they simply can no
02:03 longer tolerate his pathology his selfabsorption His religion Scientology probably scares the hell out of him As Scientology should scare the hell out of any rational person At least at least I think so Now getting back to Aaron's letter we're talking eight long paragraphs when it could have been summarized in two short paragraphs In this case we're talking about a 25year-old guy here And seriously after reading all of it me thinks Aaron really needs to re-evaluate his relative importance to the cosmos or
02:50 at least to contemporary American society and learn what the hell many other people are going through by comparison And then hopefully he'll begin improving his life by seeing just how relatively unimportant his problems are After hurling a tsunami of largely useless information concerning his habits I seriously don't need to know how many times a day you masturbate Aaron where he's at in life and what he wants to do He's 25 has a good paying job as an IT guy and wants to marry his high school sweetheart which according
03:40 to his description quote is definitely a biological credit to her gender An incredibly beautiful baby making machine that absolutely cannot wait to make all of her dreams come true." unquote That's a rather unusual way of describing your future wife Aaron but even so it has absolutely nothing to do with Aaron And that's what I'm going to try to explain here Generally speaking Aaron's idea of starting a family with this woman is the absolute dumbest decision he could ever make in his life
04:24 Young man if you want to marry a woman any woman it's very likely you're totally caught up in youthful ideas and/or ideals of romantic love and commitment But I'm here to tell you what it will actually turn out to be for you Aside from any current or future involvement in organized religion the absolute most imprisoning both financial and physical and idiotic decision you will ever make in your life And it will only become clearly apparent to you after the incredible pleasure spell wears off Usually between 6 months to a year
05:12 of enjoying said incredible When you haven't taken heed to good intelligent counsel and you become married often not because of one or preferably both families blessings but only because she is beginning to show her pregnancy or worse yet have produced one or more children And you eventually become awakened from the pleasure spell to realize that the creature you absolutely once loved is actually not only remotely mentally engaging or intellectually interesting but absolutely only interested in their biological imperative of making babies
06:08 Will you realize you once had a happy successful life or were certainly on the way to a happy successful life Then you suddenly come out of the pleasure spell and find that even at bare minimum you are legally bound to 18 years of child support and or additional alimony that is completely going to destroy your life Is a very bad time to suddenly have the realization that your youthful life is over and you're totally To put this very succinctly another way when you're up to your ass and alligators is a really bad time to
06:57 realize that your initial goal was to drain the swamp Now before going further into this horrific storm I need to let you know if you have any questions about this episode don't be chicken and drop me a line in the comments or email me from my website link in the description below and I will answer you Okay Okay I'm not going to ask you to click the subscribe and notification bell because I'm sure you already know how important that is for the channel to grow So I'm not going to ask you Now back to the show In the most succinct
ossible under all the current:08:34 and possessions And if any man totally understands that you will save yourself a tremendous amount of future obligation and misery By never officially getting married that contrived and convoluted obligation that you do not in any way shape or form want to agree to by any laws including manipulative religious or moralistic rationalizations I'm talking about young men who either don't have the experience or backbone to tell someone when they hear this "Hey you knocked her up You should just uh man up and get married to go
09:24 themselves or government decree whatsoever You only need to remember that marriage is a scam And when it's time for divorce and divorce is extremely likely If you were stupid enough to get married you'll rapidly discover just how completely unfair unjust and quite purposely is intended to financially enslave men and ends up completely ruining society as a whole So my advice Aaron is to absolutely in no way whatsoever ever get married And if you do when the divorce comes and the system is completely ripping you a new ass just
10:14 like I said it would I don't want to hear you whining bitching or complaining I warned you You deserve everything bad that comes your way I hope she takes every single thing you have and all of your friends just for good measure So thank you so much for being here I'm not going to ask you to click the subscribe and notification bell because I'm sure you already know how important that is for the channel to grow So I'm not going to ask you Until next Monday or Friday this is Ernest and I usually
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