REPAIRING YOUR EMOHITS, SOMETHING YOU’VE PROBABLY NEVER EVEN HEARD OF EARNEST MANN’S: WALKS AND TALKS PC.6
Are We Emotionally Numb? The Hidden Cost of Ignoring Our Feelings
Hey, it’s Earnest Mann, and today we’re tackling something big—why does it seem like people are emotionally disconnected? Susan from Portland, Oregon, asked me why so many folks she knows seem emotionally distant, and I have a theory that I think you’ll find eye-opening.
The Epidemic of Emotional Numbness
It’s not that people don’t feel anymore—it’s that they’re constantly hit with what I call "emo hits." These are emotional shocks that pile up, overwhelming us until we unconsciously shut down. Between the relentless cycle of bad news, stressful jobs, and personal struggles, many have lost touch with their emotions just to survive. The real danger? Ignoring emotions is both mentally and physically harmful. Studies prove that there’s a direct connection between emotional well-being and physical health.
The Workplace & The Feeling of Being Unloved
One of the biggest sources of emo hits is the workplace. Too many employees are treated like disposable tools, working under ungrateful bosses who don’t care about their well-being. This isn’t just about job stress—it’s about the lack of respect that makes people feel unappreciated and unloved. And that kind of emotional toll doesn’t just stay at the office—it follows you home.
How to Take Back Control
If you’re feeling trapped in this emotional dead zone, the first step is recognizing what’s happening. The second step? Taking action. I share a true story of a woman who worked under a tyrannical boss for four years before she finally got even in a way that left her feeling happier than she had in years.
Your job should not be your emotional graveyard. If your workplace is destroying your mental and physical health, it’s time to make a change. And trust me, taking the right action can heal more emotional wounds than months of therapy ever could.
So, tell me—how do you feel about this? Have you had your own experience with emotional numbness or workplace hell? I want to hear your story. Leave a comment or reach out. And don’t forget to subscribe, hit that notification bell, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.
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Transcript
00:05 you know one of the things I've noticed recently is that despite all of the horrific news we are subjected to of one kind or another I never really hear people talking about it on an emotional level it's as though we have become collectively emotionally desensitized and that's not good that and so much more on Ernest man show hello and thank you for being here Susan from Portland Oregon is asking me why is it so many people I know seem so emotionally disconnected well Susan I'll tell you what I think is going on thank you for
00:57 the question I know exactly where you're coming from from and I believe it's entirely possible you have possibly stumbled onto a path where few people Dare To Tread my observation of what you're talking about is that it's not so much that people are emotionally disconnected it's that there is so much up ISM yes as a word I invented it but yeah that's what's going going on people's inability to deal with emo hits becoming overwhelmed most often quite literally because they simply aren't aware of it
01:43 the big problem with that however is that putting emotional processing out of sight or out of mind so to speak is really mentally and physically harmful I'm sure that many of you are well aware of the brain body connection now I'm not going to get technical here because this is not my field of study and I don't want to give the impression that it is but what I can tell you with an absolute certainty is that quite a few Studies have been done including what many researchers consider to be the gold standard of testing
02:26 methodology metaanalysis which conclusive ly demonstrates a brain emotional state connection with the well-being of our bodies another aspect that is often overlooked is the collective damage of emo hits it s properly addressed even if we are aware of the cause of our poor emotional state simply because we don't have the time and that is no accident it is absolutely intended so that in turn the Max Pro work condition makes a person feel very unloved yes I said unloved that feeling when a company is squeezing every bit of
03:15 production out of you but as far as you and your well-being is concerned they simply don't give a damn and I don't know about you but that in turn makes a person feel even worse than they already are and I feel that's terrible so if you or someone you care about is experiencing this what can you do well if you agree with me that unreconciled pent up emotional frustration or anger is not good for your body or mind congratulations you've taken the first big step at improving your life now here's the Next
04:01 Step the next step is to recognize the general type of emo hits in the broadest terms there are two types of emo hits relationship and survival for now I just want to talk a little bit about emo hits survival now before I go any further I just want you to know that I'm not just trying to help you become more emotionally aware but I'm doing this so you will actually gain a lot more control over your life and I feel that's a good thing so where wasse I oh yes emo hits survival what I'm referring to when I
04:45 say emo hit survival concerns the emo hits you deal with at work to be even more specific I'm talking about your work as an employee I'm talking about anyone who actually collects a paycheck as an employee not the business owner if any of you would like to talk about that subject simply let me know as an employee you already have an incredible workload your work has to be done quickly and it has to be on time stress is often your middle name but in addition to all that you can often become an emotional punching bag to your
05:32 boss or bosses now with your fellow employees perhaps not so much because if you're pretty much on the same level of employment if they are deliberately with you you can in turn tell them to off of course in general you prefer to avoid such idiotic drama you probably just want to do your work get finished and get the hell home unfortunately you often can't avoid your boss or bosses and in the game of survival of living paycheck to paycheck you not only have to deal with the stress of the job itself but with the
06:17 NeverEnding gut-wrenching feelings of having to deal with your bosses who simply don't give a damn about you this is where you need to act for your mental health and physical well-being what I'm about to tell you is for illustrative purposes only your situation is completely unique to you I'm just relaying a story it was told by a woman who worked for an ungrateful Tyrant I prefer the term myself but anyway she worked there for 4 years but she didn't get mad she got even one day there was an office meeting
07:06 and she was called in having done this many times before she knew what she was being called in for to bring a pot of fresh hot coffee for which she had never been told thank you not even once by her boss but this day would be different she came into the meeting room smiling with the fresh steaming hot pot of coffee and started filling her boss's cup when an unexpected accident occurred and the coffe pots handle somehow came loose and that entire pot of hot coffee went directly into her boss's lap instead of course she was fired
07:58 immediately she told me at that moment she felt terrified she exited the office got on the elevator and went down to the parking garage got into her car pulled out of the parking garage turned on her favorite music really loud and began beating the steering wheel as she pulled out of the parking garage laughing at the top of her lungs she hadn't felt this happy in years that was an absolutely true story how to make you feel it made me feel pretty damn good the fact is she had carefully planned this she had already gotten a new job
08:43 which she would start in a few days at a place she felt she would be respected at and better pay as well all I can say about this lady who shall remain anonymous is I applaud you because you didn't and complain that the world or the people in it wasn't fair or nice to you you actually did something about it like I said I'm not even going to attempt to give you any further advice because your life and your situation is unique you've got a brain I know this because you're listening to my show if your work is a hell hole as
09:27 well but I could definitely tell you this the right kind of similar satisfying action will reduce the swelling and inflammation of all those emo hits you've suffered and if you combine that action with a nice bottle of wine you'll feel far better than 6 months of expensive therapy could ever accomplish so so tell me how you feel or give me your own personal story because i' really like to hear it don't be lazy leave a comment or reach out to me via my email link in the description below please do subscribe and hit that
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